Guides
The questions that come back every night
One guide per problem, written to be skimmed at 3 a.m. Each one contains the tool or the diagram that goes with it.
Baby wakes the moment I put them down
They are sound asleep in your arms. You put them down. Their eyes open. Here is what is actually happening, and the one adjustment that changes everything.
ReadThe four-month sleep regression
The word is misleading. Nothing has gone backwards — your baby’s sleep has just changed its nature, and it is not going back.
ReadThe 30-minute naps
Exactly thirty minutes, every day. Not a failed nap: one complete cycle, and the link that does not happen yet.
ReadAwake windows, age by age
The single most profitable adjustment of the whole day: how long they can stay awake before tipping into overtiredness.
ReadBaby sleep cycles
Fifty minutes instead of ninety, and phases that do not even share a name before three months. Here is how it is built.
ReadBaby not sleeping through the night
The trick question at every family gathering. Here is what the phrase actually means, and when it starts to make sense.
ReadFalling asleep alone
Whatever they have as they fall asleep, they will ask for again at 2 a.m. That is the whole point — and there is more than one way there.
ReadEarly morning waking
Five in the morning, every day, ready to play. The fix is counter-intuitive: in most cases you need an earlier bedtime.
ReadSeparation anxiety and sleep
They have just understood you exist even when they cannot see you. Excellent news for their brain, very bad news for their nights.
ReadNight terrors and nightmares
Both frighten parents, and they are opposite phenomena. The time on the clock is enough to tell them apart.
ReadThe move from two naps to one
The most unstable stretch of early childhood. There is a reliable signal — and three days of refusal is not it.
ReadWhat time a baby should go to bed
It is not a time on a clock, it is an interval from the end of the last nap. Here is how to work it out.
ReadThe bedtime routine
It is not the content that counts, it is the order. And the day it gets longer because you are negotiating, it has stopped working.
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